Dating a trini man
When we finally did meet, the friendship blossomed into about a 1-2 yr relationship and though things have ended between us, I valued the time I did spend with him and the fact that I gave him a chance. No matter how much respect, no matter how much recognition whites show towards me, as far as I'm concerned, as long as it is not shown to every one of our people in this country, it doesn't exist for me"- Malcolm X, 1964 Look, the negative traits in men being discussed here knows no nationality, or ethnic, or racial or religious or social group for that matter; men are men, just like women are women; and in that respect you have good ones, and you have not so good ones; if you are fortunate enough to find a good one, say thank you; if your are not, simply move on, don't dewll on it.
With each experience you learn something and IMHO become more in tune with yourself, your needs, your wants. So no, I don't think Trinidad has a monopoly on 'dogs' as I prefer to call them, they are out there in every shape, size and colour, and in every corner of the world.
Don't for a minute think there is ONE man made and designed for you. There are many decent men out there and sadly the obnoxious and rude ones give the rest of them a bad name.
Does it have anything to do with where you meet these guys?
Thank goodness they implemented a 'closed off site' policy where it became mandatory to erect barriers around your site; this eliminated the 'eye candy' the workers previously had :: after that all the whistling and 'cat calls' disappeared :: And who is the person who said that "we don't deserve what we get?
" As a Trini man I can only speak for myself and, I'm totally in disagreement that all Trini men are no good.
I have two schools of thoughts about it as well, one is as you say, do nothing and focus on myself and he will come.
You may be right to some extent, being addicted to a certain type. The more energy you put into the pursuit of relationships, the more likely you'll end up looking in the wrong place or settling for less than you deserve, the more disappointed you'll be when they don't work out, and the more cynical and counter-productive your attitude will become. Observe people and take a chance when you think it's worth it.
However, it was when I had hit rock bottom with personal issues in my life that my closest companion and listener was a male Trinidadian man. :roll: :roll: :roll: You don't stick a knife in a man's back nine inches and then pull it out six inches and say you're making progress.
I had never met him (we spoke online), but he was there to listen and provide support. I will be honest though, Trinidadian men are GENERALLY too idle and flirtatious for my liking. No matter how much respect, no matter how much recognition whites show towards me, as far as I'm concerned, as long as it is not shown to every one of our people in this country, it doesn't exist for me"- Malcolm X, 1964You don't stick a knife in a man's back nine inches and then pull it out six inches and say you're making progress.
It haveta do a lot about maturity, I mean if you are in a dead end relationship for years and you are unhappy then it's time to split.
But the experience you have gain should be a stepping stone as to what you will be looking for in the next relationship.